I recently attended a beautiful wedding, which was right on the beach, and very well-attended.(think 250+) It was the kind of wedding that drew out the sort of social circle that you only see at family weddings/christenings/deaths, and so it was great catching up with a lot of faces I hadn't otherwise seen as of late.
The question came with the gift. I understand that a gift should be an approximate value of the cost of your attendance at the wedding. I also understand that you have up to one year to give the happy couple their well-deserved, thoughtful, on-or-off-the-registry treasure.
So with this wedding, it was requested that we give cash.
No problem.
However, it was boldly hinted not two weeks after the wedding, that our darling wedding card and/or present and/or cash was missing from the gift opening, and the bride and groom were concerned that it had gone missing, or worse yet, had been stolen. (We, in fact, had not yet given the gift, choosing not to bring it to the event so it wouldn't get lost or stolen)
I replied that we had not yet exercised our "One Year Rule" on the gift, and to expect it...well, basically, to expect it when I gave it to them.
My question is: am I out of line suggesting to the Bride that we have a year to give a gift?
I look forward to your thoughts.
Oh, and I fixed my "Comments" so any and all can now contribute!
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Not only are you NOT out of line ..... but whoever "boldly" hinted that your gift was missing most certainly IS!
A wedding gift is a traditional gesture of goodwill and generosity towards the happy couple, and should not be a mandatory expectation.
Most couples would consider it a "gift" that their guests were able to attend the wedding and share their special day.
But that's just my opinion.
xxx
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